lesbian parenting

I read a blog the other day that purported to be written by a lesbian. It became clear in reading further that in the safety of the internet, she could identify as a lesbian, but in reality her words and phrases made it clear that she was either experimenting or closeted. She was heavy into the christianity thing (not that it would automatically exclude her) and spouting some of the standard condemnation that comes from that camp, but the biggest clue was a little online poll she posted. It was talking about LGBT parenting and whether or not it was a good thing. Her options were (paraphrased), "i dont know/care, i think its not good for the kids, and it might be good to have a two parent family.

The more i thought about it, the angrier I got. She obviously has no clue. Not about being a parent, not about being a lesbian. first parenting is hard, single parenting of more than one child is difficult, the more parents/parental adults the better. Having single parented 3 for many years I think I have a valid perspective. Kids need loving adults to support them in all ways, dividing yourself into parts, to be there for more than one child at a time is damned difficult. One child, one parent; two children, two parents.....makes sense. But more than 2 children, maybe more than two parents is required (i can just hear the hysteria level rising out there in certain minds). Who ever said that marriage and parenting go hand in hand. Our divorce statistics suggest that they have nothing to do with the current reality. Past history would corroborate that fact when you consider that the male of the couple was relegated to the support role - working to provide for his family, and it has only been in the last 25 years or so that fathers have chosen to be involved in active parenting roles.

but back to the point. even though I may have serious questions about the whole marriage issue (why should we want something that is so flawed to begin with, and why should we buy into the status quo) none the less, I stand 100% behind the fight for equal rights under the law....and I think our families need all the support they can get. I believe that 2 parents, 1 parent, 3 parents or more, our children are part of the community and need to be addressed in that light, what ever support we can give every bit counts. Parenting is about love, about teaching, about supporting and about setting limits. It is not about parental gender identity, or numbers.

What I really do not understand is: why, when there are so many other things that need to be focused on, resolved, or at least addressed, WHY have the powers that be decided that they have to focus on "protecting a failing institution from the small group of people who want to support it", and passing moral judgement on people who love, when soiciety itself is falling apart with violence and power abuse. I don't get it.